From C.U.N.T.A. to Well-F**ked Woman: Healing Sexual Trauma and Reclaiming Your Power

In 2020, while the world was on pause, I found myself sifting through years of old journals—pages that held memories I hadn’t yet been ready to face. That’s when the truth finally rose to the surface: I had been sexually assaulted by someone I once called a friend.

It was a shattering moment, but also a turning point. I was ready to stop pretending and start healing. And that’s when I found a podcast featuring Wim Hof and a woman named Kim Anami—a holistic sex and relationship coach who speaks about sexuality in a way I had never heard before. Raw, real, and utterly unapologetic.

Wim said something that hit me like a thunderbolt:
“The issues are in the tissues.” And then Kim went on to describe how most of her work is focused in the yoni- the area where sexual trauma occurs. Instantly it clicked and I knew I had found someone who understood the depth of the pain—and the power it takes to transmute it.

Who Is a Well-F**ked Woman?

Through Kim’s work, I was introduced to the concept of the Well-F**ked Woman—and no, it’s not just about having more sex.

A Well-F**ked Woman is:

  • Deeply nourished on every level—body, mind, and spirit.

  • Confident in her body and open in her voice.

  • Radiant, magnetic, and deeply connected to her sensuality

  • A woman who knows how to surrender, trust herself, and fully receive pleasure in all areas of life.

  • Someone who’s done the work to move from survival to thriving, from fear to freedom.

And me? At the time, I was her opposite.

Meet the C.U.N.T.A.

Yes, I was a complete and total C.U.N.T.A.
Controlling. Underfked. Nagging. Tight Ass.

I was always trying to control everything around me because I didn’t trust anyone—especially not myself. I was literally underf**ked, AND was was also disconnected from pleasure, intimacy, and sensual nourishment. I nagged because I was resentful and deeply unfulfilled. And I was a tight ass—tense, rigid, afraid to surrender to the flow of life.

Take it from me. Living as a C.U.N.T.A is exhausting.

The Journey to Becoming a Well-F**ked Woman

My healing didn’t happen overnight. It’s been a multi-layered, non-linear, deeply transformative journey. I’ve worked with Kim Anami and completed her Well-Fucked Woman course—a powerful deep-dive into reclaiming sexual energy as your life force.

I’ve also incorporated a holistic approach that includes:

  • Coaching to help me change my perspective and hold me accountable to my dreams 

  • Ketamine therapy to reset and expand neural pathways.

  • Biotuning to release trapped tension in the nervous system.

  • Myofascial release to reset the tissues and let go of dense energies

  • Reiki to calm my nervous system and help my energy to flow 

  • Soul retrieval to energetically call back fragmented parts of myself.

  • Twerking to move stagnant energy and have fun feeling my own body and pleasure

  • Yoni gazing to rebuild intimacy with my own sacred anatomy.

These tools have helped me clear energetic blockages, peel back the layers of trauma and conditioning, and open myself to deeper intimacy, connection, and pleasure than I ever thought possible.

Tangible Ways to Start Healing from Sexual Trauma

If you’re reading this and wondering, Can I really come back from this?, the answer is YES. But it requires a willingness to feel, to explore, and to move beyond traditional ideas of healing.

Here are a few places to begin:

  • Breathwork: Use intentional breath to connect with your pelvic space and release stuck emotions.

  • Self-pleasure rituals: Reclaim your body on your own terms through sacred, intentional touch.

  • Embodied movement: Dance, twerk, sway—move in ways that feel nourishing and sensual.

  • Somatic therapy: Work with a practitioner who can guide you in safely exploring stored trauma.

  • Vaginal weightlifting or jade eggs: Build strength, sensitivity, and energetic connection with your womb.

Healing is not about going back to who you were before the trauma. It’s about becoming someone entirely new—someone more you than you’ve ever been.

You Deserve to Be a Well-F**ked Woman

Imagine waking up in the morning feeling turned on by your life—not just sexually, but creatively, emotionally, spiritually. Your relationships glow. Your boundaries are strong. You feel safe in your body, clear in your purpose, and fully expressed.This is what it means to be a Well-F**ked Woman. As Kim Anami says,
“Your sexual energy is your life force. When you tap into that, you become unstoppable.”

So I ask you:

Are you ready to stop controlling and start surrendering?
Are you ready to stop nagging and start nourishing?

Are you ready to stop tightening and start trusting?

You don’t have to do this alone.

If Kim’s work speaks to you, I encourage you to explore her transformative courses. And if you’re craving deeper support on your journey—someone to walk beside you, hold you accountable, and cheer you on—I invite you to learn more about my 1:1 coaching packages.

Together, we’ll uncover the root of your trauma, activate your pleasure, and awaken the Well-F**ked Woman within you.

Your body is sacred. Your pleasure is your birthright. Your healing is possible. What are you waiting for?

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AJM